Tuesday, April 5

It's hard enough.

I've had a bit of freedom lately. And I've been enjoying it off and on these last couple weeks!

The freedom I've found has come through realizing life is hard enough with out adding the stress of trying to appear that I have all together.

Because {and here's the kicker} I don't.


There mom, I said it! I can admit it. But only recently has this been something I'm comfortable saying out loud. 


I have always been a bit of a perfectionist and control freak in some areas. I struggle with worrying about what other people think of me. As a woman, a friend, a wife, and a mom. I want people to like me and I want others to approve or agree with how I do things and decisions I make. But living like that is really been stressful and less than enjoyable. And there are a few things that helped me realize that it's ridiculous to live like this.


1. You can't please everyone. There will always be someone who disagrees with you. 
2. Everyone is different! And praise the Lord because how boring would it be if we all did everything exactly the same. So- there can be more than one right answer to the little things in life.
3. Most people don't really care if your carpets are always vacuumed, your dishes are always done, or whether or not your kids faces have food from lunch still on them! {Because they probably have the same things going on}


I came across this blog this morning and I really appreciate what it says. And it's so true.


We aren't helping anyone, or encouraging our fellow moms by pretending that we have it all together or that we have this job figured out and mastered it! Because the truth is, none of us do! 


I know that I am more encouraged to know that I'm not the only mama who has a hard time balancing kids, dinner, marriage, ministry, friendships, etc. And I want to do a better job and just being real, on this blog and in my home. 

6 comments:

Jaclyn said...

We are so much alike. Wow! When can we get together??? :-)

Kym said...

I am SOOOO excited that you have discovered these truths so early in your parenting!! Just remember this: The carpet may not be spotless, there may be dishes in the sink, and there will ALWAYS be a pile or two of laundry to do...BUT THOSE THAT MATTER WON'T MIND AND THOSE THAT MIND--DON'T MATTER!!!!! Love you, Sweetie!

Mom

Carol Kirby said...

Katie: I've learned these lessons like you without little children, but a family all the same. When Owen got burned I decided my house didn't have to be perfect if someone wanted to come and comfort me, and I needed them more than I needed a perfect house. And my sons that I got late in life comfort me in a way that "things" could never do. So I get it, and good for you that you get it too.
Love, Carol

Carol Kirby said...

Katie: I've learned these lessons like you without little children, but a family all the same. When Owen got burned I decided my house didn't have to be perfect if someone wanted to come and comfort me, and I needed them more than I needed a perfect house. And my sons that I got late in life comfort me in a way that "things" could never do. So I get it, and good for you that you get it too.
Love, Carol

evalynsmama said...

We should! Afternoons are best this week, but usually I'm free anytime Tuesday through Friday :D

evalynsmama said...

Thanks mama! See you Friday :D

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